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Grief and Healthy Living: 3 Powerful and Practical Tips

I’m going to be real with you. When you are trying to change your lifestyle, but you get blindsided with a tragic event, eating or living healthy just doesn’t cut it. You may also get tempted to engage in some risky and/or self-destructive behaviors. You may have even done some messed up stuff at the time of reading this article. My hope is that you read this post just in time before that. Please know that you are not wrong or bad, you are human and deserve all of the compassion and grace this world offers.


Dealing with loss is one of the hardest experiences you will ever endure and in these times the priority is not whether or not you're being super perfect with your health goals and lifestyle, but it to keep your sanity and to keep moving forward to give your body and soul the time it needs and deserves to get to a place where you can function again as a human being. Sometimes keeping your sanity involves eating comfort foods which may or may not be healthy and coping with what you’re going through in whatever way calls you but my goal is to show you safer methods to deal with loss.


There are so many different ways to cope with tragic events. Everybody has their own way of dealing with their emotions. Some people turn to binge drinking, others turn to sex, some people turn to computer or video games, work, binge eating or emotional eating, etc. My goal with this article is to share with you some very powerful, practical, and effective tips to cope with this whilst keeping your healthy living goals a priority and taking care of yourself as much as possible.


1. Immerse yourself in self-care: Aside from heartfelt prayer, exercise is the #1 best method in coping with loss. I don’t know why but there is just something to running, lifting, or doing vigorous strength training that helps to lessen the pain. Not only that, the release of endorphins really gives you a powerful shift in your mood. In regards to food and alcohol, let’s talk about that.


Sometimes, eating healthy just doesn’t cut it. Give yourself grace and compassion during this time. Instead of beating yourself up for not living to your standards and falling off your goals, try this. Force yourself to eat a healthy food or drink a green juice first and then eat what you want. Also, try to find a healthier version of that food that contains less sodium, less unhealthy fats, and less sugar but that is still satisfying and safer to eat… maybe even to eat larger amounts of. For example, instead of eating a whole basket of french fries, try eating baked potatoes with butter and sea salt or instead of a whole box of donuts, eat some donuts made with healthier ingredients and eat vegetables like celery after or supplement yourself with freshly pressed vegetable juices. If you feel too weak to do this, enlist the help of a friend and loved one. The goal during this time is not to be perfect, but to cope. When the shock of the event has lessened, then do what you can to get right back on track as much as possible.


In regards to alcohol, instead of alcohol, seek an emotional support group. Talk to friends. Eat a delicious comfort meal. Immerse yourself in work or a project. Journal. Practice a safer coping way first. Give it a chance. Extend some grace to yourself and be compassionate to where you are right now. You are not going to be okay for a long time, and it is okay to not be okay. You deserve so much compassion right now and if you surround yourself with highly supportive people people that allow you to feel safe, that allow you to be vulnerable, and to just be yourself, you will find that your desire to eat unhealthy foods or engage in unsafe behaviors will actually go down. You won't want to do those things. I can say this from personal experience, but don’t just take my word for it. Always enlist the help of a licensed professional.


2. Root yourself in prayer and the Word of God: Prayer is the #1 practice that I have found in dealing with loss and tragedy. God is so incredibly accessible and generous with his provisions of comfort, reassurances, and peace and will bless you with a feeling of self-compassion, self-forgiveness, and self-understanding whenever you need it. In addition, the Word of God is a living word and will comfort you exactly the way that you need to be comforted. During this time, don’t close yourself to God but seek him more than ever. Trust me, it will help.


3. Enlist the help of a licensed professional: Whether that is a licensed grief counselor or therapist, a psychologist that specializes in grief and loss, or a psychiatrist if needed, remember that your health in all forms is a priority. They are skilled in these areas and for those professionals who have been through loss and grief, they are exactly the people you need in your life to help you through this. Don’t be afraid to reach out and seek the help you need.


If you need any help or encouragement or prayer, please do not hesitate to reach out. I hope this post helps someone. Have a great day.


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***Disclaimer: I am not a licensed medical or psychiatric professional. Please consult and seek the help of a licensed professional for any questions, concerns, and issues first.***


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